Your Campus Remote Work Policy Might Be Right But Not Good

May 24, 2022

We’ve had every wrench known to Home Depot thrown into the mix as campus leaders are working to telegraph the COVID-19 variant punches over the last few years.


What was expected to be a mass migration back to the happy office spaces last fall was halted as leaders protracted their work-from-home policies indefinitely into another miserable pandemic winter.


As spring winds down, you are once again preparing for what your new office environment will look like to start up the 2022-2023 academic year while praying not to lose any of your best talent, right?



What hangs in the balance is a ton of tension to manage. Many leaders I serve are scrambling to solve this conflict via fixed policies and practices designed to be RIGHT (efficient) but not always GOOD (effective).

What hangs in the balance is a ton of tension to manage. Many leaders I serve are scrambling to solve this conflict via fixed policies and practices designed to be RIGHT (efficient) but not always GOOD (effective).


I hear ideas from leaders across the country which are widely divided and (in my opinion) narrowly grounded in personal bias and views rooted in a pre-pandemic framework for how the work should be done.


Grounded Perspective

Gallup has been a trusted base for making sense of the mucky middle of these types of tensions for years. I have appreciated their most current study conducted to give voice to the needs and plans of more than 140,000 U.S. employees surveyed since the pandemic. These insights paint a vivid picture of how campus leaders might not want to FIX the problem but FLEX it to keep their best talent and attract more of the same in the year ahead.


Spoiler alert: Employees with the ability to work remotely universally desire a hybrid office environment, which allows them to spend part of their week working remotely and part in the office.


Hybrid work in the educational space is increasingly complex but can’t be set apart as a non-starter. Some campuses are mustering up the courage to take on a learning posture in this new reality. The following lessons will define our work lives for years to come. Ultimately, how a hybrid campus unfolds will depend on the capacity of work teams to be uber-clear about the work priorities and how leaders adapt to the changing needs of the learner experience.


Let me make a bold statement that will make half of you want to stop reading. I believe it is becoming shallow and a bit selfish to say that the work of education must be 100% on-site. Equally, I don’t think it is best practice to allow everyone to work and learn 100% remotely. It’s the middle ground where we will find leaders in the winner’s circle.


Based on Gallup’s insights, approximately half of the U.S. full-time workforce (representing about 60 million workers) report that their current job can be done remotely by working from home, at least part of the time. The new term for these workers is "remote-capable employees."


Before the pandemic, very few remote-capable employees worked exclusively from home (8%), while one-third had a hybrid work arrangement.


Then the pandemic hit, and most remote-capable employees were forced to work from home in some capacity.

Fast forward to the current day, most campuses are wondering what to do with this new group that CAN work from home. Those who are seeking to even the playing field are calling them back to campus.


When asked how these remote-capable employees desired to work into the near future, about 53% preferred a hybrid arrangement, and 24% would choose to work exclusively remote.


Nine in 10 remote-capable employees currently prefer some degree of remote-work flexibility in the future, and six in 10 specifically prefer hybrid work. Most employees have developed an affinity for remote-work flexibility that has matured into an expectation for those now coming into the workforce.


While permanent plans for remote flexibility are lagging in the educational space, more and more demand is trending in this direction.


What does this mean in the battle for talent? I suspect that many of your best talent on campus will not receive the flexibility they desire, and many (more) will leave.


Fact: Remote work isn’t a fad. It is here to stay, and hybrid work is the future for most remote-capable employees.


Working for a campus that doesn't consider the unique needs of remote-capable employees might create more inertia than engagement. When employees are required to work entirely on-site but would prefer to work hybrid or fully remote, employees experience:


  • significantly lower engagement
  • significantly lower wellbeing
  • significantly higher intent to leave
  • significantly higher levels of burnout


Counter Fact: To be fair, the long-term effects of mass-scale remote work in education are yet to be seen.


Nonetheless, attracting and retaining top talent amid today's "Great Reshuffling" of the workforce will require all campus leaders to address the remote-work question in a fluid, vs a fixed manner.


Failing to offer flexible work arrangements is a significant risk to campus hiring, employee engagement, performance, wellbeing, and retention strategies.


Why Hybrid?

Gallup asked remote-capable employees who prefer hybrid work why they desired this arrangement.

The most common responses won’t surprise you.


The top reason employees prefer hybrid work is to avoid commute time.


We all can agree that a large slice of the life pie is taken away from us in the time it takes to get ready for work, travel to the office, and return home every day.


The other key reason employees prefer hybrid work represents a strong desire for more personal freedom to work when, where, and how it best suits them. Their demands for better well-being, work-life balance, and flexibility represent a new "will of the workplace” that won't consent to the traditional office attitudes in the future.


For balance, the study also pointed out that remote-capable employees are increasingly isolated by the digital world and need to feel connected to their coworkers and their organization. There is a common agreement that connecting with the team and feeling a part of the campus culture is easier to experience in person.


Although remote employees enjoy their flexibility, four in 10 would give up some time at home to have in-person office experiences.


Overall, the top reason people want a hybrid work arrangement is to have the flexibility to manage their week while still feeling connected to their organization.


These sentiments align with adjacent Gallup research showing that achieving work-life balance and improved personal wellbeing are top reasons people would change jobs.


Hybrid work helps employees get the most out of their day while ensuring they feel connected to coworkers and the organization.


So, What’s the RIGHT and GOOD Response? 

For starters, campus leaders should delineate between the work.


What’s your team’s interdependent work?


What’s your team’s independent work?


Highly interdependent teams must stay tightly connected and rely on one another to work in a real-time/high-definition world. The more interdependent your teams are, the more explicit leaders must be about when work must be done collectively and on-site.


These teams require a certain amount of air traffic control and more face-to-face time to keep everything moving cohesively.

Conversely, when teams work independently (doing tasks that require less real-time collaboration and more asynchronistic focus), they can be given more autonomy and flexibility over work schedules.


In a hybrid environment, highly independent teams must double down on quality communication, ownership of performance outcomes, and team connection. Their most significant risk is working in isolation for too long or at the wrong moments. Highly independent teams also risk culture erosion and the neglect of remote-working coworkers.


While hybrid work schedules should look different by campus and team, it is universally important to keep assessing, adjusting, and reassessing how the current arrangement is working.


In the end, campus leaders who retain their best talent and attract more of the same will have apparent answers to WHY people should come into the office and HOW they should spend that time together.


Campus leaders are working to create firm ground for this new normal in the face of increasing volatility. It can be easy for leaders to get bogged down in policies and rules concerning hybrid work. Based on the needed efficiencies (right) and desirable effectiveness (good), the modern hybrid workplace needs to provide three things:


  • Productivity: Workplaces that execute upon 90-day priorities for all teams.
  • Flexibility: Workplaces that allow personalized work schedules that honor the remote-capable voice to thrive in life and work.
  • Connectivity: Workplaces that encourage the spirit of partnership, teamwork, and organizational culture


Here are a few recommendations to help campus leaders stay focused on what's essential while managing the tension of work triage.


Boost Productivity

Shape work strategies around objective productivity, not just policy compliance.

Now is the time to redefine what Higher Performance looks like for your team and how to best work together to achieve that vision. Ensure collective focus on the immediate performance outcomes and have the right tools for tracking your progress. Assess which team activities are best on-site and which can be done remotely.


 Consider the interdependency of the work. 

As previously discussed, when teammates are more interdependent, they need more coordination of schedules and time on campus. Team members are responsible for a mix of interdependent and independent work. These individuals should consider where they can best focus on their assignments and when they should be in the office to boost collaboration and team culture.


Boost Flexibility

Allow for flexibility within a framework. 

There is likely no single campus work policy that will be ideal for all teams. Allowing leaders some authority to individualize policies is necessary, given your campus' different kinds of work and life circumstances. It is also essential to set boundaries for when employees are expected to be in person and allowed to work remotely.


 Warning: Flexibility and autonomy can create ambiguity and coordination issues.


Experience (and the research) find that leaders communicate less frequently and effectively in the remote modality. However, hybrid team engagement can actually surpass on-site engagement when managers proactively check in with their teams multiple times per week. As flexibility increases, leaders need to increase communication about work priorities, progress, and handoffs between team members.


Boost Connectivity

Think virtual first. 

When team members in the office behave as if everyone is working remotely, remote workers are more likely to feel part of the team. For example, having laptops at team meetings, so everyone has an on-screen presence can create a more inclusive experience. Also, taking time to learn together is a great way to grow into a hybrid team.


Consider a few of our Higher Performance Team Workshops to sharpen your advantage and raise your team engagement. 


Give people a compelling reason to come to the office.


“I come to the office with a smile because of a policy,” said not one of your high-capacity team members. A policy is not an answer to why people should be working on campus. Leaders need to develop a compelling workplace value proposition representing the culture, benefits, and interactions your people will experience on-site.


Say Hello to the Modern Workplace


Saying your campus is a modern workplace is much easier than creating an effective one. Undoubtedly, hybrid work will be more challenging for leaders than their old ways of working. Flexibility for workers makes coordination difficult. Remote workers can feel neglected, technology requirements must change, and hybrid work will raise additional complex issues of trust, equity, and accountability.


Because of this, you might want to armor up and shut your eyes tight. However, "hybrid" isn’t just a work schedule or employee perk -- it's an entirely new way of working together.


Crafting an exceptional hybrid work experience (culture, not policy) will be worth it -- if you put in the hard work to make it worth it.


I have already seen the benefits for those who did it before the pandemic and are living it today with lines of people who are ready to fill open positions.


These exceptionally led hybrid teams tend to have more engaged employees, more intentional and meaningful interactions, and, ultimately, better flexibility to integrate work and home life.


All signs indicate that hybrid is fast becoming a new expectation of your high-capacity employees and teams.


I am fired up to experience the next chapter of this tremendous global work experiment and its impact over the next few years.


One Question

What valuable lessons did you and your team receive by working differently over these past two years?


One Challenge

I am encouraging (and challenging) every campus executive team to block off time this summer to critically think about your work triage assessed against your 90-day priorities. What work can be done independently? What work must be done interdependently? How can you boost productivity, flexibility, and connectivity?


The Research

Check out the Gallup article on hybrid workplace.



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Fluent. Confident. Wrong. In that order. Every cabinet meeting I've sat in since the second week of June has opened with some version of the same sentence: "The board wants to know our AI plan." Nobody's arguing AI matters. That fight's over. What almost nobody's asking is the question underneath it: the one that actually decides whether this fall helps your cabinet or quietly wrecks it. Before you put a machine on the payroll as your cabinet's newest ghostwriter, have you checked what it already believes about you? Here's what nobody tells a team of senior leaders walking into its first AI rollout: the tool doesn't create your team's judgment. It ghostwrites it, fluently, into every board memo and parent email and strategic plan you hand it, sounding exactly as confident in the ones that are wrong as the ones that are right. Two stories explain what's actually at stake this fall. One's old. One's brand new. Together, they're the whole problem. 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It was what he said actually held him back: "Under stress, we don't rise to the level of our aspirations. We fall to the level of our stories, our systems, and our self-image." Not his intelligence. Not his skill. His self-image, inherited from a five-second sentence somebody else said, replaying under pressure for ten straight years. Now sit with the version your own cabinet is running. Maybe it's a board comment from three budget cycles ago that nobody's repeated out loud since, but everybody still quietly believes. Maybe it's a single paragraph an accreditation team wrote four years back that's still deciding what your provost thinks she's allowed to propose. Maybe it's simpler: a founding leader who once told this team they weren't ready for something, and nobody has tested whether that's still true. Here's the part that should actually worry you. Kwik didn't get better at learning by treating the injury. He got better by finding, and rewriting, the sentence. 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(This is the exact gap THE TEAM INSTITUTE was built to close this fall: surfacing what the room already believes before the tool starts repeating it back at scale, which is different work than training your cabinet on the tool itself. Every vendor already offers that part. More on that in a moment.) TQ = IQ × EQ × PQ still holds. What's new is the multiplier. A cabinet with strong IQ and an untested self-image used to produce one flawed decision at a time. The same cabinet, with AI in the loop, can now produce that flawed decision a hundred different ways before lunch: in a strategic plan draft, a parent email, a board memo, and every version will read as confident, because the tool can't tell the difference between confidence and an old wound. THE OLD PLAYBOOK If you want proof this isn't just a Higher Performance Group observation, change management researchers are already redrawing the map. 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A room that's never practiced thinking together won't notice when the tool starts thinking for it instead. Understand the real problem. Most cabinets solve the presenting problem (enrollment's soft, a program's underperforming) instead of the one underneath it. Kwik's rule: spend the bulk of your time understanding what's actually broken before anyone reaches for a fix. AI is exceptionally good at answering the wrong question with total confidence. Imagine your own solution before you borrow one. Draft the cabinet's own answer first, even a rough one, before any tool sees the problem. This is the step almost every cabinet skips under deadline pressure, and it's the one that actually builds Team Intelligence. Skip it enough times, and the room stops being able to do it at all. Leverage the tool to stress-test, not to think for you. This is the one step where you deliberately fire the ghostwriter. 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(Kwik teaches this in far more depth than one newsletter can hold: his book Limitless and his Kwik Brain podcast go deep on the underlying discipline. No affiliation here, just work worth pointing you to.) THE CASE STUDY This is a composite, drawn from patterns across our work with 987 leadership teams , not one specific president's story. A university cabinet spent the spring drafting its first AI use policy the way most do: one dean built a draft using a chatbot over a weekend, and the cabinet spent forty minutes debating word choices in a document none of them had actually thought through together. The policy read confidently. Nobody in the room could say, if asked directly, what problem it was actually solving. Before the fall rollout, the cabinet ran Build Before You Borrow on that same policy, live, in one meeting. Brainstormed first, out loud, no laptops. Named the real problem: not "we need an AI policy" but "we don't yet agree on what we're willing to let a machine say on our behalf." Drafted their own answer as a room, in plain language, before any tool touched it. Only then brought a draft to AI, and only to argue against it. The resulting policy was four sentences shorter than the first one and, according to the cabinet, the first draft everyone in the room could actually explain from memory without looking at it. Same five people. One real conversation, finally had before the tool had it for them. THE FIRST MEETING You don't need a retreat for this. You need one meeting, early in the semester, run differently than the ones you've been running. Name the sentence (20 minutes). Ask your cabinet directly: what's something this institution believes about itself that nobody's tested in years? Write every answer down without editing them. You're not solving anything yet. You're finding out what you've all been quietly agreeing not to say. Run one live decision through Build Before You Borrow, out loud, before anyone opens a laptop (30 minutes). Pick a real one: the fall enrollment message, the AI policy itself, whatever's actually on this week's agenda. Brainstorm together first. Name the real problem. Draft your own answer as a room. Only then bring in a tool, and only to argue against what you just built. Agree, as a cabinet, on one rule for how AI gets used this year (10 minutes). Not a policy document. One sentence everyone says out loud and means: something like "nothing this tool wrote goes out first without a human draft underneath it." Whatever you land on, make it specific enough that you'd notice the day you broke it. If your first objection is that you don't have sixty extra minutes this month, you're already spending more than that reworking decisions that got made too fast, by whoever talked first in the room. This isn't additional time. It's the same time, spent before the mistake instead of after it. If your second objection is that your team will treat this as one more initiative, they're already operating under an initiative. It's just an unspoken one, and it's been running since before you took the job. THE MATURITY SHIFT Immature leaders think: "We need to move fast before we fall behind on AI." Mature leaders think: "We need to know what we actually believe before we teach a machine to say it for us." Immature leaders let the tool draft first and edit for tone. Mature leaders draft the room's own answer first and let the tool argue with it. Kwik calls the difference between these two postures victim mindset and heroic mindset: whether you let your hardest chapter keep narrating you, or you use it as fuel. It's a private decision about your own institution's story, one nobody else can make for you, and this fall, a machine is about to say that decision out loud, on schedule, to everyone. 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Fifteen minutes, no pitch, just a clear read on what your cabinet is actually working with before you put a machine in the room as your ghostwriter. higherperformancegroup.com/team-intelligence-assessment Across the 987 leadership teams we've studied, the cabinets that did this work before scaling anything (a new initiative, a new tool, a new plan) outperformed the ones that scaled first and diagnosed later, by a wide enough margin that "later" stopped being a viable strategy. The point is simple: make sure what gets sped up is actually worth repeating. If this is useful for someone else's first fall cabinet meeting, send it their way before their board asks the same question yours did. Tell them which sentence you found. Somebody in your network is about to let a machine ghostwrite a story they've never actually tested, and this might be the newsletter that stops them in time. Follow DR. JOE HILL and Higher Performance Group . — Dr. Joe Hill, Higher Performance Group | THE TEAM INSTITUTE
By HPG Info September 1, 2026
Three Convos Hiding Inside Every Hard One Somebody walks into your office. The numbers are off. Or the mood is off. Or both. And you already know which conversation you're about to have — because you decided it before they sat down. Here's the tell: most leaders run the exact same script regardless of what's actually in front of them. Stern voice for a performance problem. Soft voice for a feelings problem. Same script every time, because building a new one for every person is exhausting — and exhaustion, not indifference, is usually the real reason cabinets default to autopilot. Here's what that shortcut actually costs you. The conversation you're avoiding right now is a decision you're already making. Every week you skip the two-minute diagnosis, you're choosing — by default — to either let something slide that shouldn't, or come down hard on someone who needed something else entirely. This week: the diagnosis every leader skips, and the three conversations hiding inside every hard one. THE DIAGNOSIS Let's talk about this like adults who've sat through a cabinet meeting that started at 2:00 and ended, for reasons nobody could later explain, at 3:47. You know the version where a VP's reports go late and thin, and you assume skill drift — because skill drift is the explanation that requires the least from you. You know the version where someone's tone shifts in a meeting and you file it under “having an off week,” then quietly start managing around them instead of asking. You know the version where the story someone tells you doesn't quite add up, and you let it go because confronting it feels worse than not knowing. Here's the pattern underneath all three: once you decide someone is lazy, or checked out, or doesn't care as much as you do, you stop looking for any other explanation. Every late report confirms it. Every quiet moment in a meeting confirms it. You've stopped diagnosing and started collecting evidence for a verdict you already reached — and the story becomes true simply because you quit checking it. That's not a people problem. That's a leader who made the moment about their own read of the room before they made it about what was actually happening in the room. (This is the exact gap THE TEAM INSTITUTE was built to close — not by teaching your cabinet better scripts for hard conversations, but by building the shared diagnostic language that lets seven people read the same situation the same way, before anyone opens their mouth. More on that in a moment.) This is the part where I'm supposed to tell you to “communicate better.” You already knew that. The real problem is you've been trying to fix a Perceptual Intelligence gap with an Emotional Intelligence tool — and TQ math doesn't forgive that substitution. TQ = IQ × EQ × PQ. Skip the diagnosis, and you're not being direct. You're multiplying by a guess. THE THREE-CONVERSATION DIAGNOSTIC Call this the Three-Conversation Diagnostic. Or don't — it'll still explain why your last “tough conversation” left the room worse than before you started it. 1. The Skill Gap. They don't know what's expected, or nobody's ever shown them. Treat it like a character problem, and you'll manufacture resentment where clarity would've done the job. Lead with the headline, not the buildup: “I need you in this seat, and right now it needs three specific things you're not doing yet.” Name them. No mystery. (This is the only one of the three that's actually about skill — which is exactly why it's the one leaders misdiagnose least often, and the other two most.) 2. The Life Crisis. Something outside work has knocked the wheels off, and performance is just where it shows up first. The move is holding real support and real expectations at once: “Here's what I can flex. Here's what I can't.” Extend that grace with no word to the rest of the cabinet, though, and you've created sanctioned incompetence — everyone sees the standard slip and quietly assumes you're letting it slide, because nobody told them why. 3. The Integrity Break. Someone isn't telling you the truth, and opening with the receipts triggers defense, not honesty. Slow it down instead. Ask them to walk you through it again — a true story holds up the same way twice; one that isn't tends to shift, a detail moves, someone else gets blamed. If it never settles, you're not managing a performance problem anymore. You're holding a values line, and holding it is the only thing that tells the rest of the cabinet the standard was ever real. This is a composite, drawn from patterns across our 987 teams — not one specific leader. Call him Isaac: assistant superintendent, six years in the seat, historically one of the most reliable people on the cabinet. Then two board cycles running, his reports came in late and thin. His superintendent did what most of us do under pressure: assumed skill drift. She scheduled a “let's get you back on track” conversation, brought data, brought a plan, opened with concern about standards slipping. Isaac sat through it politely. Said he'd do better. Nothing changed. It wasn't until she asked one different question: “Is this a 'you're not clear on what I need' problem, or is something else going on?” That's when Isaac told her his father had been moved into hospice three weeks earlier, and he'd been driving two hours each way most weekends to be there. She'd diagnosed a skill gap. It was a life crisis wearing a performance-review costume. Not because she's a bad leader — she's excellent — but because she skipped the one step that tells you which conversation you're actually in. She offered two weeks of reduced load, had a peer cover his board prep, and told the cabinet only, “I'm aware, we're handling it together” — enough that nobody rewrote the standard in her silence. Isaac was back to full strength within a month. Same person. Right diagnosis, finally. THE APPLICATION Here's what to do Monday morning (assuming you're not already in crisis mode, in which case, bookmark this and do it Tuesday): Step 1: Run the Filter (2 minutes, before you open your mouth). Before your next hard conversation, ask yourself: skill, life, or trust? Don't skip this because it feels obvious. It's obvious after the fact in roughly zero percent of the conversations that actually go sideways. Step 2: Match the Opening Line (30 seconds). Skill gap gets the headline, not the buildup. Life crisis gets “here's what I can flex, here's what I can't.” Integrity break gets “walk me through it again,” not the receipts. Three different diagnoses, three different first sentences — using the wrong one is how a life crisis turns into a resentment-generating skills lecture. Step 3: Name Your Own Story First (1 minute, inside the conversation itself). Try: “Here's what I've noticed. The story I'm making up about it is ______. Help me understand what's actually true.” You've named the gap without attacking the person, and left room for a story that might be completely wrong. If your own emotions are rising while you say it — irritation, defensiveness, the urge to decide right now — that's the signal to slow down, not speed up. Good decisions and hot emotions have never once shared a room. “We don't have time for a diagnosis, we just need to handle it.” You don't have time not to. Every wrong-diagnosis conversation gets repeated — once when you misread it, again when you have to walk it back. Two minutes of diagnosis is cheaper than two conversations, every time. “My team will think I'm overthinking a simple conversation.” Your team is currently watching you run the same tough-leader script on everyone, regardless of what's actually happening in their life. That's not simple. That's a coin flip they've already noticed. THE MATURITY SHIFT Immature leaders think: “I need the same tough-leader energy in every hard conversation.” Mature leaders think: “I need to diagnose before I speak — and let the diagnosis choose my tone.” Immature leaders protect their own consistency. Mature leaders protect what's actually true in the room. Here's the part that should sting a little: you're not just managing one relationship in that conversation. You're managing a room that's always watching how you handle everyone else. Get the diagnosis wrong in either direction, and you're not just mishandling one person — you're teaching the other seven what actually happens here when something goes sideways. This is a PQ problem before it's an EQ problem. You cannot communicate your way out of a diagnosis you never made. Your turn: think of the last hard conversation you avoided, or ran on autopilot instead of running the filter. What did skipping the real diagnosis actually decide, by default? — Bonus points if you can name which of the three conversations it turned out to be. If your cabinet keeps having the wrong version of the right conversation, that's exactly the collective-architecture gap THE TEAM INSTITUTE was built to close. Not by teaching your team seven individual scripts for seven different personalities — that's the traditional playbook, and it's why most leadership development doesn't survive contact with an actual cabinet meeting. THE TEAM INSTITUTE builds the shared diagnostic language so the whole room reads the same situation the same way, before anyone opens their mouth. Across 987 leadership teams , cabinets that built this kind of shared architecture saw performance improve roughly 3x, engagement rise 29%, and outcomes improve 27% — without any increase in burnout, which is usually the quiet, unadvertised cost of every initiative that just asks people to “communicate better.” If there were a way to give your whole cabinet one shared diagnostic filter — instead of seven leaders each running their own private version under pressure — would that be worth twenty minutes to explore? Start with the Leadership Team Performance Assessment Whether or not this week is right for that, help another leader catch their own blind spot before it costs them a good person: repost this with the diagnosis you almost got wrong, tag the cabinet member who needs the three-conversation filter, or drop your own story in the comments — someone else's hardest conversation this week gets easier because you did.  Follow DR. JOE HILL and Higher Performance Group for weekly Team Intelligence insights.
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